defy puny: Do you NEED a relationship in your life?

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ImmortalZodd I seek only the strong Registered: 07/11/11 Posts: 346 Loc: USA Last seen: 1 hour, 56 minutes
	Be honest... I see a lot of people, mostly younger men and women who seem to just bounce around from one relationship to the next. They will be in a relationship with one person for a few months or maybe a few years and have a breakup and then immediately they are fixated on getting their next new relationship up and running again. Many of these people are never satisfied in the relationships they are in, but they don't seem to take the time to give themselves room to breathe between relationships and just enjoy the single life, if they even can. Do you feel like you NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? I have spent 90% of my teenage and adult life single (I am 26), and very content, but perhaps I am the minority? Everyone is different and has a unique perspective, so lets hear your story... -------------------- ...the illegality of cannabis is outrageous, an impediment to full utilization of a drug which helps produce the serenity and insight, sensitivity and fellowship so desperately needed in this increasingly mad and dangerous world. Carl Sagan
kiss_the_sky03 human being ? Registered: 08/19/05 Posts: 1,201 Loc: where I want Last seen: 8 hours, 51 minutes

billy jowl Stranger ? Registered: 12/11/12 Posts: 332 Last seen: 47 minutes, 35 seconds
	Quote: Do you feel like you NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? I have spent 90% of my teenage and adult life single (I am 26), and very content, but perhaps I am the minority? Everyone is different and has a unique perspective, so lets hear your story... well im a little older than you, ispent my teens and 20's chasing partners alwayys lasting 2-4 yrs, i thought my happiness depended on being in? a relationship sharing love and expierences together. well now i have one, 8 yr old daughter. my head is in a differnt space now i am truly happy for the first time in mylife ive been single for about 4 yrs now, i had struggled with deppresion then 1 day it hit me hard, i truly have to know and love myself before i can have true love and lasting happiness with a partner
tymoteusz3 ? Registered: 09/08/10 Posts: 5,895 Last seen: 25 seconds
	Quote: *billy jowl said:* well im a little older than you, ispent my teens and 20's chasing partners alwayys lasting 2-4 yrs, i thought my happiness depended on being in? a relationship sharing love and expierences together ...... then 1 day it hit me hard, i truly have to know and love myself before i can have true love and lasting happiness with a partner This. -------------------- There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K. Dissociative Drug Resources The Methoxetamine Chapters - The M Hole Beautiful M Hole report by Wiccan_Seeker The 3-Meo-PCP Chapters, Part One
Almond Flour Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 8,268 Last seen: 6 hours, 11 minutes
	Well arnt you just the unique individual! Enough air up there on your high horse as you try to look down on others who would rather share the burden of life than be a SUPPER DUPER UNIQUE LOANER WHOM IS SATISFIED WITH WANKING???? -------------------- In other words, thinking outside the box might be facilitated by having a somewhat less intact box. -Random Doctor Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition -Timothy Leary Everyone has their own unique brand of toxic psychosis -Alexander shulgin
tymoteusz3 ? Registered: 09/08/10 Posts: 5,895 Last seen: 25 seconds
	Quote: *Almond Flour said:* Well arnt you just the unique individual! Enough air up there on your high horse as you try to look down on others who would rather share the burden of life than be a SUPPER DUPER UNIQUE LOANER WHOM IS SATISFIED WITH WANKING???? Your whole post simply reinforces the point OP is trying to make... Many people (and yes mostly younger I have noticed too - it seems as people get older they realize that a relationship is not essential to being happy, but still there are some older people I know with the same mindset) "have" to be in a relationship to be fulfilled. I was like that, but eventually I realized I needed to be comfortable and confident with myself first before jumping into a relationship, and once I was, I found someone amazing. If you need a relationship to be happy you are going to simply have troubles in the relationship as you are using it as a crutch for your emotional support. A relationship is supposed to be the "icing the cake" but not the point of life. And viewing it as something you "need" will always end with misery, usually jealousy / possessiveness / staying with an abusive partner or one who is just not compatible and feeling miserable because you are terrified of not being in a relationship. You have to be comfortable, confident, and happy with yourself / accept yourself before looking for a relationship. If you don't, it will just bring issues into the relationship. It happens all the time and happened to me all the time until I finally realized what was going on, why the patterns kept on repeating themselves, and why my relationships were failing. -------------------- There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K. Dissociative Drug Resources The Methoxetamine Chapters - The M Hole Beautiful M Hole report by Wiccan_Seeker The 3-Meo-PCP Chapters, Part One
Almond Flour Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 8,268 Last seen: 6 hours, 11 minutes
	Theres a fine line. Im completely confident in who I am, and am more than capable of spending time alone. However I still.....on stormy nights.....wish I had someone to hold, love, and to share lifes burdens with. A relationship and union between two people is allot more than a glucose rush....or ICING ON THE CAKE Its a sacred bond that was created by the good Lord himself so that we may tackle life's challenges....together? Sure one can be alone, but you are lying to yourself if you think you're above the common folk who seek that other half to complete them. Sure I can SURVIVE in the harsh world, alone and untouched, but do I want to? Im all for not being a codependent ass to your partner and using that connection in order to escape lifes harsh realities. But I still think there are some very distorted, egocentric views going on in this thread. The way I see it > If that makes sense . I think we got a badass on our hands, not someone who is genuenly trying to help our fellow shroomerites -------------------- In other words, thinking outside the box might be facilitated by having a somewhat less intact box. -Random Doctor Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition -Timothy Leary Everyone has their own unique brand of toxic psychosis -Alexander shulgin Edited by Almond Flour (01/02/13 09:18 AM)
Fedor Yet another psychonaut Registered: 08/14/12 Posts: 71 Last seen: 1 hour, 17 minutes
	Quote: *ImmortalZodd said:*NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? No. I need to be in touch with people and to take care of them to be happy, but a romantic relationship would be something I just wouldn't know how to handle. I can't imagine how I would behave in it, or what my partner would be like. I don't want to live up to any girl's expectations of what a man should be like, I just like being this person I am, even if most "normal" people consider me insane.
tymoteusz3 ? Registered: 09/08/10 Posts: 5,895 Last seen: 25 seconds
	Quote: *Fedor said:* Quote: *ImmortalZodd said:NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? No. I need to be in touch with people and to take care of them to be happy, but a romantic relationship would be something I just wouldn't know how to handle. I can't imagine how I would behave in it, or what my partner would be like. I don't want to live up to any girl's expectations of what a man should be like, I just like being this person I am, even if most "normal" people consider me insane. But that is how you should be in a relationship - yourself - the person you really are. -------------------- There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K.* Dissociative Drug Resources The Methoxetamine Chapters - The M Hole Beautiful M Hole report by Wiccan_Seeker The 3-Meo-PCP Chapters, Part One
ArmFromTheAbyss Old Hand Registered: 10/09/02 Posts: 1,258 Loc: Down here in Babylon
	Quote: *Almond Flour said:* SUPPER DUPER UNIQUE LOANER Wow, I think you mean "super" and "loner." Read much? I would say that whether you're wasting time in a bad relationship, or facing the world alone, we all struggle. It's a right of passage that we must go through at one point on the path to becoming mature. Some people get there earlier, some later and some never get there. After about 30, age is just a number. I feel that getting married or attached at too young of an age dampens your perspective. Going through heartbreak and loneliness will force you to build inner strength. It's important to find a partner who also has that inner strength and maturity. That I feel, is necessary for a healthy sustainable relationship. -------------------- "Oh the gamblin' man is rich and the working man is poor, And I ain't got no home in this world anymore."
Almond Flour Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 8,268 Last seen: 6 hours, 11 minutes
	Quote: *ArmFromTheAbyss said:* Quote: *Almond Flour said:* SUPPER DUPER UNIQUE LOANER Wow, I think you mean "super" and "loner." Read much? I would say that whether you're wasting time in a bad relationship, or facing the world alone, we all struggle. It's a right of passage that we must go through at one point on the path to becoming mature. Some people get there earlier, some later and some never get there. After about 30, age is just a number. I feel that getting married or attached at too young of an age dampens your perspective. Going through heartbreak and loneliness will force you to build inner strength. It's important to find a partner who also has that inner strength and maturity. That I feel, is necessary for a healthy sustainable relationship. ......... well said -------------------- In other words, thinking outside the box might be facilitated by having a somewhat less intact box. -Random Doctor Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition -Timothy Leary Everyone has their own unique brand of toxic psychosis -Alexander shulgin
pwnasaurus Stranger ? Registered: 07/16/08 Posts: 7,403 Loc: Canada Last seen: 2 hours, 56 minutes
	Quote: *tymoteusz3 said:* Quote: *Fedor said:* Quote: *ImmortalZodd said:*NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? No. I need to be in touch with people and to take care of them to be happy, but a romantic relationship would be something I just wouldn't know how to handle. I can't imagine how I would behave in it, or what my partner would be like. I don't want to live up to any girl's expectations of what a man should be like, I just like being this person I am, even if most "normal" people consider me insane. But that is how you should be in a relationship - yourself - the person you really are. Yeah, seriously.? All the guys on here complain that women play mind games, meanwhile being completely different people around women, playing the same damn games they're complaining about. Me and my girl are always ourselves around each other, completely straight up, and it's the most amazing, non-dramatic relationship I've ever experienced.
Fedor Yet another psychonaut Registered: 08/14/12 Posts: 71 Last seen: 1 hour, 17 minutes
	The person who I really am is kind of indifferent towards women and sexuality, for now. I value close friendships a lot more - they are more meaningful to me emotionally and intellectually. But all this might change.
Almond Flour Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 8,268 Last seen: 6 hours, 11 minutes
	Quote: *pwnasaurus said:* Quote: *tymoteusz3 said:* Quote: *Fedor said:* Quote: *ImmortalZodd said:NEED to be in a relationship to be happy? No. I need to be in touch with people and to take care of them to be happy, but a romantic relationship would be something I just wouldn't know how to handle. I can't imagine how I would behave in it, or what my partner would be like. I don't want to live up to any girl's expectations of what a man should be like, I just like being this person I am, even if most "normal" people consider me insane. But that is how you should be in a relationship - yourself - the person you really are. Yeah, seriously.? All the guys on here complain that women play mind games, meanwhile being completely different people around women, playing the same damn games they're complaining about. Me and my girl are always ourselves around each other, completely straight up, and it's the most amazing, non-dramatic relationship I've ever experienced. Ya.....the first month* of the relationship is pretty special? -------------------- In other words, thinking outside the box might be facilitated by having a somewhat less intact box. -Random Doctor Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition -Timothy Leary Everyone has their own unique brand of toxic psychosis -Alexander shulgin Edited by Almond Flour (01/02/13 10:38 AM)
ImmortalZodd I seek only the strong Registered: 07/11/11 Posts: 346 Loc: USA Last seen: 1 hour, 56 minutes
	Quote: *Almond Flour said:* Well arnt you just the unique individual! Enough air up there on your high horse as you try to look down on others who would rather share the burden of life than be a SUPPER DUPER UNIQUE LOANER WHOM IS SATISFIED WITH WANKING???? I in no way meant to sound condescending. Like I said, everyone is unique in their opinions and ideas, I just wanted to know how other people felt about the topic. For the record, I am not looking for a relationship but I am open to the possibility of one in the future. I don't regard myself as a loner, just a person who is content with being alone. -------------------- ...the illegality of cannabis is outrageous, an impediment to full utilization of a drug which helps produce the serenity and insight, sensitivity and fellowship so desperately needed in this increasingly mad and dangerous world. Carl Sagan